Something Ive been Wanting to Say

FYI: Today I could have posted about the AWESOME String Cheese concert I saw last night. I could have posted about how Ive been called for the last 2 days to be an extra in that Will Ferrell movie filming out here. But Im not. I want to post about something else thats been on my mind: Since participating in HNT some 10 weeks ago I have come across far too many to count negative, cutting, undeserving, hurtful and quite frankly shallow comments by women HNTers regarding bodies and pics being shared for all. Honestly, its disheartening and frustrating! The thing is, these comments arent directed toward other women, they direct them toward themselves!! And whats more nearly 100% of the time these self imposed snipps and criticisms are TOTALLY undeserving!! Today alone I found myself saying WTF no fewer than 4 times trying to comprehend where on earth theyre coming from. And that was just this week! And what Im about to say is not just my oppinion. I know what I am attracted to in a woman outwardly, and I know my male friends are attracted to the same thing cause weve discussed it. And guess what: there is NO consistancy as to her physical traits (granted, there is such thing as 'too heavy' but that goes for men AND women right?). What matters is not the roundness of the ass or the perkiness of the breasts or the curve of the hips. What matters is the confidence with which she carries all these 'imperfections' around with her. Her posture not the smoothness of the back, the angle she holds her head not the shape of it, the broadness of the smile not the fullness of her lips, the gleam in her eyes not the depth of their color. I have stared intently at the sexiest midriff ever and its not that slim, it just moves with confidence and allure. You may have noticed that I have always used the word 'honey' when reffering to a woman that I find attractive. I don't use the word 'hottie' as some have pointed out because I am not interested in 'hotties'. There is a difference. A 'honey' has a vibe (yeah make fun of my hippie lexicon if you want, Im not ashamed) an aura, a radiance about her that can be overpowering whether shes 5'6 and 160 or 6'2 and 120. A hottie is just parts that might be fun to stare at but not worth getting to know (and there seem to be a few of those on HNT as well). If I can get one point across with this its that (as cliche as this is going to sound) the radiance is what is attractive and that isnt in your shape or height or weight. Its in your movement and laughter and the kindess and frquency of a casual touch. So please PLEASE keep that in mind before you point out how much you hate a scar on your belly or how unhappy you are with your thighs or how unatractive you think your face is. Youre so missing the point about HNT! If I can make a quick case in point: I get quite a few HNT comments. Why? Im 5'9 138. I dont work out and dont have a full head of hair. I am NOT anything special to look at in those terms. I have fun with HNT and I honestly believe thats what people are seeing and finding attractive. It certainly is not my biceps that women find worth commenting on OR my pecs! It has to be that intangible something that is visible through the lens. I hope this makes some kind of sense and that somebody out there who needed to read this actually did because I just find it such a shame that this thinking is so rampant in blogland and in real life. Thanks for listening.