I Don't Think So!

How should I say this? I am not a prude, nor am I a fluzy. I don't give up my dignity, my self esteem or mySELF just to please somebody, just to be accepted or to receive a little extra attention. I would rather 'get close' with noone at all than with the wrong sort. But I will get down with you and intermingle and share and exchange on a deep level if that connection is there. If that vibe is real and tangible. If I feel we are good for eachother then you can count on me to fulfill your needs and desires. But a week doesn't go by anymore where I am not approached and 'hit on' by someone who I'm sure is a great person and is nice in their own right. But they make the move for the 'great deed' way too early for me. I am floored by it really. Flabbergasted and awkward I try to ignore the 'come on'. Don't get me wrong! I'm flattered! Who wouldn't be? But the ultimate of ultimates after one encounter? You've already decided that we are so likeminded that we should go for that right off the bat? What happened to getting to know eachother? With taking our time? Why the rush? Let's just slow down a bit shall we? Honestly, I cannot in good conscience link you to my site after a mere 1 or 2 comments! If you're leaving a little "that's funny, I relate!" on my post once or twice, do you really think that THAT'S going to get me to open up my sidebar to you? You've got another thing coming my friend! Link yourself on your OWN sidebar if you're that desperate. I don't know you from a religious right blogsite. I don't know your political views, your musical tastes, your 'dependability'. I mean, are you going to post everyday? Or do you show up once a week whenever you have some 'time to kill'? How do I know just how many other blogs you've been trying to get linked from this week? Can I be sure that that avatar is really you? Perhaps those posts of yours aren't your own at all. Maybe those cute little comments you leave are well rehearsed and recycled. Maybe you have a whole other blog under a different username that I'm not aware of! Who's is visiting and leaving comments over there? Huh? I don't know. But if you truly appreciate my blog for its content then you will wait around patiently and politely leaving a consistent but not overwhelming amount of nice, poignant comments. And you can disagree, that's fine. You won't lose points for that. But do so respectfully and articulately. Oh, and please don't think you're going to gain any ground by linking me on your sidebar too soon and without asking, that's just creepy and wreaks of desperation. Nobody else on that short linklist of mine got there with a few overcomplimentary comments and a nod of recognition on their blog (well, there was that time when I was drunk and she emailed me a cleavage shot... But that was one time! I've matured since then) and YOU won't 'get there' that way either. If you are who your blog shows you to be, then in time I will grow comfortable with your presence and will open up my sidebar to your site. Until then, just play it cool. Thanks. Visit my site again in a week or so, okay? p.s. If you really want to show me that you're interested, you'll spend some quality alone time in my archives, not just the latest post. Show an interest in my past for crying out loud. And visit my blogging friends that are already linked on my site. Afterall, they get a say in your 'acceptance' too! I value their oppinions and you would do well to treat them accordingly.